What a weekend! I had the best of intentions to run on Friday after work, but had an incredible opportunity to go to a dinner party instead. I went to bed early and arose at 6am on Saturday to enjoy a beautiful day. It was the American Cancer Society’s Making Strides Against Breast Cancer walk. I got to join on with Team Laurapalooza. Laura Rhodes Goldstein has become a huge part of my life. We met about 2.5 years ago through my Promise Chair Affair event. The first night we met, I knew we would be life-long friends. She has an incredible outlook on life and makes a point to include laughter in everything she does. Laura has been fighting Stage IV Breast Cancer since April 2007. She is kicking cancer's booty!
As we all rallied at the walk, taking team photos, adorning our necks with more pink (if that was even possible) and laughed about funny memories and even funnier people in crazy outfits. Laura gathered us all to have a heart to heart and share her gratitude about all of us being there to support her. A wheelchair loomed in the background of where Laura stood. Tears began to flow as she asked us a very humble question… “You guys know how much I love the pictures. I need the pictures. The pictures keep me going being able to look at me smiling and living alongside all of you…but if you could PLEASE not take any pictures of me in the wheelchair. I don’t want to look back on this day and the memories be of me sitting in a wheelchair.” We all agreed and began to make our way to the Start line.
Laura started out in the wheelchair, being pushed by her incredible husband, Richard. About half way through I offered to take over for him and he agreed. So there we were…Laura and I wheeling our way down Orange Ave. in downtown Orlando. I was overwhelmed with emotion as I saw tears beginning to run down her cheeks. She was trying so hard to be strong and enjoy this walk as the crisp breeze blew her hair…her natural grown hair. She is beautiful. I couldn’t help but think about her precious body that has been radiated, cut, poked, squeezed and examined. Why has this walk been so hard for her? Why has God given her so much to carry? I have to rest in knowing that God does not pick weak people. And Laura is FAR from weak!
Here I sit, perfectly healthy, able to go, do, run and jump and yet I complain. I find reasons to not exercise or make excuses like, “I’m tired, I’m sore, I will tomorrow.” It makes me sick when I don’t take full advantage of the life, the health and the abilities that God has given me.
SO…Laura Rhodes Goldstein, Thank YOU. Thank YOU for blessing me with your friendship. Thank YOU for allowing me to walk alongside of you on this often bumpy road. And Thank YOU for the beautiful realization that life is short and damn it…we’ve got to start living it!
I leave you with a quote from Laura herself…
“But there are still women dying all the time of stage IV breast cancer. So will I or won't I? Who the hell knows? I just take one day at a time and enjoy the shit out of my life and those around me. Isn't that what we are all supposed to do? I just love my life and can't worry about when it's going to happen. I continue to meet stage IV survivors that are 5 years out, 10 years out and every once in awhile you hear about many more than 10 years out. If I'm going to think I might die like other women in 1 or 2 years, it would be so unfair not to stretch the fantasy to include the possibility of being like the women who are 10 years out. So I try to keep my mind in the place of possibilities. And in the present.”